How Christian Singles Can Stay Faithful in Their Waiting Season
Welcome to Dear Emmanuela….
Where wisdom meets grace for your journey to lasting love.
Hey sis,
Let’s take a deep breath together, because I know waiting can feel like the hardest part of the promise.
If you’re single, saved, and serious about doing it God’s way, you know the tension I’m talking about. You’ve been praying. You’ve been trusting. You’ve been watching others get engaged, married, have babies—while you’re still trying to hold back tears at weddings and baby showers, asking God silently, “When is it going to be my turn?”
I’ve been there. And I want you to know this: waiting is not a punishment. It’s preparation. God doesn’t delay to deprive—He delays to develop. Your future marriage is far too precious to be rushed.
So let’s talk about how you can stay faithful—not just in status, but in spirit—while you wait.
1. Stay Rooted in Your Identity
Let me remind you of a truth that the enemy hopes you forget: You are not incomplete just because you’re single. You are not behind. You are not overlooked. You are chosen, set apart, and called—right now, as you are.
Your identity is not “single,” it’s “child of God.” Marriage will not add value to your life—Jesus already gave you your worth. So while you're waiting for your spouse, keep anchoring your heart in who you already are in Christ. That foundation will serve you well when the storms of marriage come—and yes, they will come.
2. Seek God and His Will for Your Life
“But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.” — Matthew 6:33 (KJV)
It’s easy to get caught up seeking a spouse, a wedding date, a sign—but God is asking you to seek Him. Because everything else flows from that place. When you align yourself with the will of God, you won’t have to chase what He already plans to give you.
God has a good and perfect will for your life. His Word says, “For I know the thoughts that I think toward you… thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end” (Jeremiah 29:11). But that path begins with surrender. When you walk in righteousness and truth, when you learn how to obey Him even when it’s hard—that’s when you’re being prepared to love someone else with Christ at the center.
Sis, build your relationship with the Lord now. Become a woman or man of the Word now. Why? Because marriage comes with warfare. The enemy doesn’t want you in a godly union that glorifies God—he wants to divide, distract, and destroy. But when you’re grounded in God, you won’t fall apart under pressure. You’ll stand firm, clothed in strength and dignity, equipped to fight on your knees when the battle comes.
3. Say No to Counterfeits
Listen, not everyone who says “God told me you’re my spouse” is telling the truth. Not every “church-going” man is submitted. And not every “God-fearing” woman fears the Lord.
The longer you wait, the easier it is to confuse attention with intention. But the devil doesn’t send you something you don’t want—he sends a counterfeit that looks like what you prayed for.
Let me be clear: settling may get you married, but it won’t get you peace. Don’t trade your standards for a warm body and a pretty ring. Say no to anything that costs you your peace, your purpose, or your purity.
4. Live Fully Right Now
You don’t have to hit pause on your life just because you're not married yet. The wait isn’t the wilderness unless you choose to make it one.
Serve. Travel. Start that business. Write the book. Go back to school. Host Bible studies. Learn to cook (yes, I said it 😄). Strengthen your friendships. Spend time with your family. Develop your character. The habits you build now will follow you into marriage.
You are not in a holding pattern—you’re in preparation. And the more intentional you are about living well now, the more fruit you’ll carry into your future relationship.
5. Stay in Community
The enemy loves isolation because it’s where his lies are the loudest. Don’t give him that opportunity.
Plug into your church. Join the Christian Wives in Training group. Join a small group. Stay close to wise, Spirit-filled friends who can hold you accountable and encourage you when the wait feels heavy.
It’s easy to fall into “no one understands what I’m going through” mode, but that’s just not true. There are others who are walking this out too—faithfully, prayerfully, joyfully. You don’t have to do this alone.
6. Pray Bold, Honest Prayers
God doesn’t need your perfect words—He wants your honest heart. So cry out to Him. Pour it all out. Tell Him your fears, your frustrations, your desires. Be real. Be raw.
And while you’re at it, pray for your future spouse. Cover them in prayer now. Ask God to protect them, grow them, and keep them aligned with His will. You're not just preparing for love—you’re preparing to fight for someone in prayer long before you fight for them in person.
7. Trust God’s Timing Over Your Own
Sis, I know your heart is ready. I know the clock feels like it’s ticking. But God is never late.
He’s not ignoring you. He’s not playing games with your heart. He’s working, even when you don’t see it. His timing is perfect—every time.
When the blessing comes, it will make sense why the wait was necessary. What God is building in you now is exactly what your future spouse will need. Don’t rush what’s being carefully crafted by the Master’s hand.
Final Encouragement
I know waiting can be lonely. I know it can feel like everyone else is getting what you’ve been praying for. But don’t let go of the promise. God sees you. He hears every whispered prayer. He’s not just preparing your spouse—He’s preparing you.
This isn’t wasted time—it’s divine preparation. You’re not just waiting on a person. You’re waiting with purpose, and with God.
So stay faithful. Stay prayerful. Stay hopeful. God is faithful, and His plan for you is more beautiful than anything you could imagine.
Keep your eyes on Jesus, and I promise—He won’t let you miss what’s meant for you.
With faith in God for your love story,
Emmanuela Rodenberg
Author of How to Attract a Godly Husband
Minister of the Gospel
Certified Christian Marriage Coach
Christian Dating & Relationship Coach
Founder & CEO, Wives in Training International
P.S. Hit reply and tell me — what’s one thing you're praying for in your future marriage? I’d love to pray with you! 🙏
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